What does it mean to be Grounded In Calm Focus? By calm I mean keeping your cool and not panicking. The more you keep your emotions under control, the more likely you are to experience a positive outcome. Similarly, there are situations in which a gesture or utterance could mean the difference between life or […]
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3 Positive Anchors
Okay, so what are the three positive “Grounded In anchors? We need to be: 1. Grounded in Calm Focus 2. Grounded in Thoughtful Response 3. Grounded in Regard for Others I’ll explain each of these in greater detail in future posts. But consider this: we do not inherently have these three positive anchor traits. They […]
Grounded Positively
How can we be “Grounded” in a positive way? When I talk about being “Grounded” in the positive sense, I mean exhibiting those traits that keep us mentally and emotionally stable, admirably sensible, realistic and unpretentious. We are not born “Grounded.” Over our lifetime, we either are surrounded by people (i.e., parents, teachers, coaches, mentors […]
3 Anchors, 3 Ships
Three anchors played a role in three shipwrecks across two centuries: the Grafton, the Invercauld and the Alacrity. The Grafton and the Invercauld wrecked on Auckland Island in the South Pacific a few months apart in 1864. The Alacrity, a ship on which I was a crewmember, wrecked on an unnamed cay in the Bahamas […]
The Girl with the Apples
I attended a Toastmaster meeting on the 7th of January. This organization is all about helping people become competent and confident speakers. If you have never been to Toastmasters, you should find your local chapter and check it out. One of the things they do at every meeting is assign a “Joke Master” who tells […]
The Cleaners, Part 2
Here is a follow-up to the story I recounted about the stained shirt and the dry cleaners. About a year after I moved my account, I was at the old dry cleaners to get a carpet cleaned. The owner of the shop emerged to speak with me, and we rehashed the story of the stained […]
The Cleaners, Part 1
Some time ago, I was reminded of an event that happened over two years ago. I had a custom shirt that got stained with ink… at the dry cleaner’s. After noticing the discoloration, I took the shirt back in, still in the plastic covering, and showed it to the manager. He insisted that the stains […]
Be prepared
I was recently reading about SEAL training tips (check out SEAL SURVIVAL GUIDE: A Navy SEAL’s Secrets to Surviving Any Disaster (Gallery Books) by author Cade Courtley). One of the techniques they use is to think through scenarios that might occur and then process what their response would be in that situation. For example, a […]
Accountability for your own actions
I recently wrote about millennials who have been raised to not take responsibility for their own actions. A good example was in the news this week. A young man from Texas had been placed on probation for a vehicle accident in which he was the driver, was intoxicated, and hit a vehicle of a disabled person on the side of […]
“Always” and “Never”
I was reading a Brainzooming post by Mike Brown this morning, and it referenced an interview with Bob Sutton, the defensive coordinator for the Kansas City Chiefs. Sutton had stated that he specifically plans to stay away from “always” and “never” in planning strategy. I wholly concur. In fact, refusing to use “always” and “never” […]